Managing Conflict » Gender Conflict http://managingconflict.com/blog Conflict Management Strategies Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:37:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 Blog Talk Radio Program -Managing Conflict in the Workplace http://managingconflict.com/blog/blog-talk-radio-program-managing-conflict-in-the-workplace http://managingconflict.com/blog/blog-talk-radio-program-managing-conflict-in-the-workplace#comments Mon, 01 Jun 2009 22:11:33 +0000 Carol Bowser http://managingconflict.com/blog/blog-talk-radio-program-managing-conflict-in-the-workplace Blog Talk RadioJoin me on June 3 at 3 pm Pacific time.  I will be the guest of Larry Kaminer, President of The Personal Safety Training Group (www.personalsafetygroup.com )for Blog Talk Radio Live Call in Program Managing Conflict in the Workplace. We will talk about:

Early recognition of tension, conflict, and potential violence in the workplace and the impact of gender on workplace conflict and resolution. Cool stuff that you really need to know.

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]]> http://managingconflict.com/blog/blog-talk-radio-program-managing-conflict-in-the-workplace/feed 3 Avoiding Claims of Workplace Harassment-Gender Differences at Work http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work-2 http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work-2#comments Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:19:00 +0000 Carol Bowser http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work-2 In the traditional models of male group dynamics the new members of the group undergo some form of hazing to “earn” their way into the group. Once “in” the group, the new guy is made the butt of jokes or “given grief” as a demonstration of his belonging.
Ask a women the last time, she felt “in” when she was made the butt of a joke. To the average female, being made the object of exclusion or ridicule is the exact opposite of belonging and a BIG BLINKING SIGNAL THAT SHE STOP TRYING TO BECOME PART OF THE GROUP BECAUSE-for whatever reason- SHE IS NOT WELCOME. In the workplace, the worst thing is to be viewed as disengaged or “not team player”.

In life, it is awful to feel purposefully excluded and have no control to “get back into the game.” What maybe intended as a sign of inclusion-kidding around, target of practical jokes-teasing maybe perceived as harassment, retaliation or purposeful exclusion. NOT what is desired in the workplace for full engagement.

Think about it. Then take a look around. How does your workgroup let individuals know that they are “Teamplayers”? How do you? Is this based on “the way we have always done it?” Is it possible that your method falls into either a “male” or “female” model?

If so, have there been any unintended consequences??

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]]> http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work-2/feed 0 Avoiding Claims of Workplace Harrassment: Gender Differences at Work http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work#comments Sun, 20 Apr 2008 19:45:27 +0000 Carol Bowser http://managingconflict.com/blog/avoiding-claims-of-workplace-harrassment-gender-differences-at-work In the traditional models of male group dynamics the new members of the group undergo some form of hazing to “earn” their way into the group. Once “in” the group, the new guy is made the butt of jokes or “given grief” as a demonstration of his belonging.
Ask a women the last time, she felt “in” when she was made the butt of a joke. To the average female, being made the object of exclusion or ridicule is the exact opposite of belonging and a BIG BLINKING SIGNAL THAT SHE STOP TRYING TO BECOME PART OF THE GROUP BECAUSE-for whatever reason- SHE IS NOT WELCOME. In the workplace, the worst thing is to be viewed as disengaged or “not team player”.

In life, it is awful to feel purposefully excluded and have no control to “get back into the game.” What maybe intended as a sign of inclusion-kidding around, target of practical jokes-teasing maybe perceived as harassment, retaliation or purposeful exclusion. NOT what is desired in the workplace for full engagement.

Think about it. Then take a look around. How does your workgroup let individuals know that they are “Teamplayers”? How do you? Is this based on “the way we have always done it?” Is it possible that your method falls into either a “male” or “female” model?

If so, have there been any unintended consequences??

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However, women jest. Men joust.

The Jester, if you will, will use self deprecating humor or feel good humor.

The Jouster will use humor to skewer or unseat the opponent and for the benefit of others. It is humor and one- ups-manship. And unless you are prepared to skewer back, it can be a demoralizing experience.

Not a big deal? Oh contraire! I hear of more women leaving male-dominated environments because of the Jousting Atmosphere.

As one woman put it “there was just too much testosterone! The men did not know when to dial it down!”

I am not saying that men need to become women with penises. Nor should women be men with breasts. What I am saying is that everyone should be conscientious of how they use humor in work groups.

So are you a Jester or a Jouster? Have you ever been a Jester in a group of Jousters? Or a Jouster in a group of Jesters? (For that second one, will anyone fess up if the Jouster with the Jesters might have led to complaints of bullying or harassment? Just wondering…)

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